- “I promise to support and protect your freedom. Our lives are intertwined, but your choices are still yours alone.”
- “I promise to respect, admire, and appreciate you for who you are, as well as for the person you wish to become.”
- “I promise to show you, every day, that I know exactly how lucky I am to have you in my life.”
- “I promise to keep our lives exciting, adventurous, and full of passion.”
Lastly, consider doing away with “I take you to be my wedded husband/wife,” and replacing it with: “I take you to be my pain in the ass.” (At least in your head, if not to your family.)
Let’s face it, at times, your partner will annoy you. They will have irritating habits, they will make decisions you don’t agree with and they will at times fail to meet your needs in a complete or timely manner. In short, they will continue to not only be human, but a separate human with needs, emotions and a world view that differs from yours. We tend to spend a lot of time wishing our partners were different than they are. That tendency can keep you from connecting intimately with who they are right now–the person with whom you fell in love.